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26 Januari 2011

>Long-lasting Relationship

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>anef cinta Many factors can make a
lasting love affair. Here
are six secrets to a
lasting relationship.
Relationship is usually
always have conditions
changed over the years.
Recognizing how our
parents could stand to
love each partner for
decades, certainly makes
you wonder how to get
through it? Here are
some tips that quoted by
the Times of India:
1. Be independent
Of course you love your
partner. But you should
not always rely on your
partner to deal with
everything.
2. If you’re wrong, admit
it
Affirming that you are
always right is an act
that is simply not true.
Brave enough to admit
that you are not always
true, is always the best
way to make
relationships last.
3. Thank couples as it is
Nobody is perfect. Some
of us are careless. Some
of us are often late,
some are too obsessive
compulsive about many
things. You just have to
accept people with what
they are.
4. Do not talk any
Although the central
argument, but choose
words wisely. This applies
to every relationship.
Any word can hurt
people, and you should
exercise caution when
were debating with him.
5. Always be honest
This is a basic
requirement for any
relationship to survive in
the story of his love. You
just have to trust your
spouse and let him
believe that they can
trust you.
6. Talk about your
problems with your
partner
Sit down with your
spouse and talk privately
about what is bothering
you. This will strengthen
the relationship and
make you through the
ups and downs with him.

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26 Januari 2011

>Characteristics of Good Curhat Friend

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>anef cinta Man can not live alone.
Instinctively, humans
need other people as
friends to share stories.
In addition to humans,
God had friends to share
that is not less great.
Everyone needs to vent,
aka sharing. Through the
vent, we have a different
perspective from yourself
to a problem and
solution.
“Curhat enrich our
minds. Sometimes, when
we could get from other
people’s point of view,
we say, ‘Yes, yes, it
seems fitting perspective
for me. ” Finally, we can
solve problems that
might be if buried alone,
we have not found a
solution, “explained Dr
Ashwin Kandouw, a
psychiatrist from
Hospital Pondok Indah
after surgery book It’s
Complicated; Friend
Sharing When
Relationships Become
Complex at Kinokuniya
Books, Plaza Senayan,
Jakarta, recently.
Vent, said Dr Ashwin,
have more benefits, if
delivered to the right
people. He presented the
characteristics of the
right people to be friends
vent.
“First, foremost, he can
guard our secrets,
appreciate the opinion,
could love a different
perspective from which
we our perspective. If
similar, yes baseball
solutif dong, “he said.
Vent the right to make
friends need the search
process. And when we
find people who make us
comfortable sharing the
story, the search was
over.
“Looking for friends
confide in is the process
of searching as well as
looking for friends. That
we had thought she
could be friends, it was
baseball. In the end we
feel comfortable with
that person. Will see
later, we feel
comfortable with her
story. Importantly, the
input to be beneficial to
us, “he added.
Dr Ashwin said, the
counselor may be
involved if there are
heavy problems resolved
themselves, or also by a
circle terkedat, such as
friends and family vent.
“If it is felt that your
friends can not give
solutions as expected,
professional mungikin
could be an option. Their
flying hours more, they
also had to face various
problems. More solution
options. But baseball was
always right there every
problem, continue to the
counselor, “he advised.
Dr Ashwin also explain
the negative effect of
unusual people vent.
“Pending the problem
because he had baseball
to look the other way to
solve the problem. The
larger, buried, one day
become a problem,
whether sleep
disturbance, anxiety,
depression, all kinds.
could eventually hurt the
soul, the possibility
exists. The process of
each person is different,
depending on the
durability of each person,
“he explained.
Vertical vent
So, what alias vertical
vent prayer that we
prayed to God? Is not
one of good
communication?
“That was the best and
most effective because
God will answer. But, the
answer’s not like a
friend. God answers
more to the guidance
that not everyone can
understand. And,
baseball everyone
patient enough to
understand and can
answer, “he said.

26 Januari 2011

>How Women Select Men

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>anef cinta Ever have a friend who
likes who you like too?
Or would you suddenly
feel attracted to people
who friend you admire in
the classroom? Naturally.
Apparently, according to
research, that’s the way
women think about men
who liked other people.
According to a study
quoted by Indiana
University, she noticed a
man who noticed by
others. Women do not
just look at what his
friends think about a
male figure, even the
opinions of strangers
once did will be a
consideration in like a
male figure. This is called
“cheating mate choice”,
and this often occurs in
other species, especially
fish and birds.
In an explanation, Skylar
Place, led the study says,
“People are not in a
vacuum bottle. We have
evolved mechanisms,
which makes us take
advantage of the
information we can from
the environment.”
This study included 40
men and 40 women. All
were students of Indiana
University, who asked to
watch a video
impressions from the
interaction of speed
dating sessions focusing
on a few pairs of men
and women who are
dating mini for a few
minutes.
After the impressions of
each pair, respondents
were asked to tick the
box that says if if they
would meet again with
the last (of the opposite
sex). The study authors
say, this mini-dates the
play turned out to be a
realistic example of how
women choose their
partner. Respondents
were asked to rate the
ratings success dating
from each partner, and
the researchers
examined how the
participants wanted to
be involved in a romantic
relationship with an
individual who is in it.
The male respondents in
general to be interested
in the woman on the
video and will grow
interested if the man in
the video also looks
interested in the woman
(especially if the man
considered to have
attractive qualities as
well).
So whatever happened to
the female respondents
seemed more attracted
to a man if the woman is
in the video looks
interested (unlike men).
Interest in men also will
decrease if the woman in
the video did not appear
interested in him.
Therefore, the
conclusion, the opinion of
someone who is alien to
the women also would
affect the assessment. Of
course women will think
about what the opinions
of family and friends
about the right partner
for him. However,
uniquely, for women,
consciously or not, the
opinion of strangers also
have an influence.

26 Januari 2011

>Creating Effective Communication

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>anef cinta Is normal to occasionally
disagree with their
spouse. Whether it
relates to home-based
tasks, financial
calculations, or even a
dinner menu selection.
Even for couples angry
over certain things were
allowed. As long as they
do not say things that
make it hurt and lead to
divorce or breakup.
Expressing resentment
thing reasonable and
permissible, because it is
one form of
communication. Make
sure you communicate
how to keep it running
good for your
relationship ever lasting.
According to Patricia
Gibberman, a social
worker from Vancouver,
the key to the
relationship is still
running is still
communicate in ways
that deepen the love and
connection. How do you
communicate with your
partner, especially when
the argument says a lot
about the strength of
your marriage.
In his study, Dr. John
Gottman, a marriage
relationship found that
those who speak with
respect and love to have
a happier relationship
and lasting than the way
he spoke to attack each
other or criticize each
other.
“The husband and wife
are happy to apply
proper friends, because
they can handle conflicts
with gentle and positive
way,” said Gibberman,
couples therapist
communication.
Six steps can help you
and your partner to
communicate better and
more closely with each
other:
1. Being an active
listener
“Most couples do not
want to hear what their
partner said when there
perseruan, because they
are busy thinking about
how to deny their
partners,” explained
Gibberman. Before you
begin to argue, agree to
take turns. One of you
may speak, while the
other still and listen
without menyelak. After
each talk, show that you
understand the feelings
of the hearer.
2. Show gratitude
Every day, look for
opportunities to
recognize and appreciate
what your partner has
been done correctly. This
is better than looking for
mistakes. Saying things
like, “Thanks for dinner,
honey. Egg omelet you do
the most good,” will help
warm the atmosphere
and strengthen the
relationship. This sort of
thing will become easier
for you and he cope with
conflict.
3. Forget the past
When you are in a feud
with the him, try to be in
that topic. Tilting the old
topics will only make him
upset, not to mention
will make it is defensive.
Plus, it extends to other
topics will only make it
difficult to reach a
resolution.
4. Complaint without
blame
Use the word calls to
yourself when you ask
him to do something. For
example, you want the
he put his dirty clothes in
laundry basket, as long
as he is always put at
random. You can say, “I
like trouble if you put
dirty clothes
haphazardly. Can you
please me, every time
there’s dirty clothes,
please put in the basket
of dirty clothes?” Avoid
blaming words with the
use of a word to him,
like, “Why do you always
put your dirty clothes tuh
vain?”
5. Time out
“When the discussion is
not going well, most
couples tend to keep
fighting, which in turn
will aggravate the
situation,” explained
Gibberman. Next time, if
you’re arguing, try to ask
for time to hold
discussions and break for
a moment, whether it be
15 minutes or 5 days,
until you are quite calm
and could think clearly.
Originally discussed
again, not allowed to
evaporated.
6. Recognize your
mistakes
Take responsibility for
your contribution to the
problem, although it is
not easy. For example, “I
should talk to you about
the price of that sofa
before buying. Can we
obrolin how do we get to
pay the couch?” Trying
to dodge, “I’m spending
overpriced baseball,
really,” or attack,
“You’re spending too
expensive, too! See tuh
flat screen television!”
will only hurt each other
and trigger emotions.

26 Januari 2011

>How to Reveal Contents Heart Men

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>anef cinta It IS not every man can
express his feelings to a
woman. One thing that is
holding the feeling is
that they are afraid that
if his love is not
accepted.
But do keep love can
solve the problem? The
answer is of course not.
The reason is, women are
also often wait for a
sincere expression
directly from the lips slid
man who admired.
Henny E Wirawan, MHum
Psi, as a psychology
lecturer at the University
of Tarumanegara (Untar)
the Jakarta said the main
factor that causes a man
hard to express feelings
for families that instill
parenting attitude to
their children not to
open to a variety of
things, which eventually
became a habits.
Indeed, in real life is
often found that the
culture of educating
children of each family
are not the same. This
also can affect the
attitude that men are
better known as
aggressive, while women
are more passive.
But it did not fully
accepted. There is
research that says that
the aggressiveness
between men and
women alike, except
when he is outside the
home. This is not an
overstatement, because
men prefer the ratio
compared with emotion.
Furthermore, in the
current study also found
that the Adam also has
an amount equal to the
Eve in expressing
vocabulary.
Even so, men still exist
who can not express his
feelings. So there’s
nothing wrong for men
to listen to tips about
your feelings with
maximum results.
First, a man must be
diligent practice verbally
express affection and
love in the form of short
messages or short
message service (SMS).
“To be more effective,
could also be by
contacting the idol of the
heart in the morning and
evening,” he added.
Tips by Henny second is
to show the contents of
the liver to a loved one,
which can be addressed
through greeting cards,
flowers, or other media.
“The men are given the
usual offerings such as
chocolate, flowers, until
the card. Even for men
who have a budget
surplus, can provide a
gift of diamond jewelry.
This luxurious jewelry
can give a deep meaning
for people to give,” he
added.

26 Januari 2011

>Abstinence Men Gossip?

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>Nickname “gossiper” is
often attached to the
female figure. But what
if it happened to him?
Will look embarrassing
when you hear him
comment on the
sensation of celebrities.
Moreover, it’s no secret
that the Hawalah which
usually caused the most
fond of gossiping about
her boyfriend and his
friends. But, it was not
always the only woman
who likes to gossip after
seeing infotainment
programs, men are too
fond of.
Although not included in
the daily agenda, but
men also feel comforted
by the program event. In
addition to staring at the
beautiful actress, most
men feel the Thrill while
to follow the drama
surrounding the famous
person. Moreover, the
gossip surrounding the
celebrity turns out to be
a conversation starter
with women.
According to psychologist
Tika Bisono, men and
women have
fundamental differences
from seksologis,
psychologically, to
attitude. Therefore, men
tend to use rational
terms, while women rely
more emotional.
“In the end if you prefer
the taste, the more
curiosity towards
everything around him.
While the men are
generally happier with
everything that smells of
logic and knowledge. But
it is possible if there are
any men who like to
know with any
something, “said
psychologist who is close
to the teen world.
Still according to him,
there is an underlying
background of men with
these conditions, namely
internal and external
factors. One cause of
external factor is the
culture within the family
environment, such as
when young he was
always protected by
those very protective
until the proverbial no
privacy. “Because it
makes it a habit to grow
and become a means for
him hanging out,”
explained alma mater’s
School of Psychology,
University of Indonesia.
Generally, men are fond
of gossip that has a
specific community or
even just a small part of
a collection of people.
Yet, fond of gossip was
not merely a negative
connotation, especially
for people who tend to
be quiet.
“With the difficult
conditions and not used
to hang out a lot of talk,
gossip can help people
with these conditions
boldly show off,” said
former popular singer in
the ’80s it.
However, he continued,
excessive gossip too
polished also will have an
impact not good. “We
recommend that you
limit yourself to
excessive gossiping
because they have to
also look at the impact
or backlash from people
who talk about,” added
this unpretentious
woman.

26 Januari 2011

>Timeless Story

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>anef cinta you’re an angel ..
White winged beautiful ..
Give bright light
Which diminish the
darkness ..
the roar of the lonely
soul ..
Banish you with love ..
Immeasurably precious ..
You love me ..
a story ..
I write with a pen ..
about us ..
In a poem of love ..
Timeless yourself in my
heart ..
Because of everlasting
love in life ..
Never fall ..
Although timeless ..
you never no ..
Because I could not ..
Losing loved ones ..
Really could not care ..
God there ..
Give me time for him ..
Give me time with him ..
Because life and my
death just for him ..
And if you split up ..
Do not let him suffer ..
Because true love is ..
Seeing the beloved
happy ..

26 Januari 2011

>He

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>anef cinta He …
He’s soft as cotton
She was beautiful like a
winged angel who fell
from the sky
He’s the most beautiful
gift in my life
Her face was calm my
soul that fragile
Said he reassured me
that undecided
Her smile menghiasai day
– my day
And jokes laughter
warms the atmosphere in
my life
I love him …
I love him …
I love her ….
Throughout my life ….
Therefore I have come to
know love
Therefore I understand
the meaning of life
And therefore also, I
could feel the beauty of
life
Thank God …
You have to send him to
me
Although I do not have it
I’m happy to have known
him

26 Januari 2011

>I feel this

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>anef cinta Step stops when the
heart begins to melt
because of missed …
Stare at the sun, because
today everything must
end
Hold my finger, because
we may not go back to
the period of this …
Hug me this, because
really … I want ..
My first touch your color,
while the heart is barren,
full of dust ….
Stir just as Oasis who
desire to share their
dreams .. Love you bring
me a present ..
You make me down,
reflect, and stare deep
into your beautiful eyes
.. Really, I have been
drowned and washed
away in a sea of
forbidden love this ..
When I closed my eyes,
having the desire to take
you far into my life
When I assured this heart
that you are able to
survive with all current
state I
There’s always
something that compels
me to think back to go
further
Until this point, I have to
answer … why my heart
is often uncertain
Honestly …. from the
deepest depths of my
heart .. I say …
I love you … … I love
you … I will always miss
you … ..
With all the advantages
and disadvantages do
you have
Up to make you hate me
because I feel this …

26 Januari 2011

>A message of love

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>anef cinta Blessed are the lovers
you are blessed with a
sense of love and be
loved
Please do not waste
Due After all, love
remains love
Often people do not
appreciate the love
When the love is there
When love comes, try to
say hello
Maybe they will feel how
precious love
If they feel how hard to
get it
Friends, anyone, listen to
my message
Appreciate love
Please, do not waste
Do not throw away and
ignore
If you want to know how
precious love
Try to be a person who
truly fight
And failed … repeatedly.
So that’s where you’ll
know
Meaning of Love

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